After another kick of Gilmore Girls episodes, this week, I felt inspired to watch another critically acclaimed TV show featuring Lauren Graham: Parenthood!
My first impression, upon finishing the pilot, was surprise.  Surprise because of how funny the show was.  This humor may stem from the original source material: the 1989 movie Parenthood, featuring Steve Martin, Keeanu Reeves and countless other recognizable names.
Don’t get me wrong: this is a drama, no doubt in my mind.  (And we’ll get to the tears, don’t worry!)
But the highlight of this show for me was the large family meal scenes.  I loved the natural chaos, the give and take of conversation.  A lot of comedy flows out of these moments.  It felt like a real family dinner and not a heavily scripted drama.  
Peter Krause (from Six Feet Under and Sports Night) is the first brother we meet as he is taking a morning jog and soon receives a series of phone calls from various family members.  It reminded me of Arrested Development, where Jason Bateman’s character has a heart of gold who is always called upon to bail out his family when everything goes terribly terribly wrong.
Peter Krause definitely had this helpless feeling to him.  He’s such a good guy, he can’t NOT help, even if he overextends himself in the process.
My favorite actress, Lauren Graham is a sister in this family and a single mother (Clearly she’s got the market cornered).  She is moving into her parents’ house because of her financial troubles with her two teenage children in tow.  She then goes on a date with an old high school boyfriend and has a classic meltdown at the restaurant.
Bring on those Graham tears!  Honestly I love when Lauren Graham cries because without fail, it hits me where I live and I start crying as well.
Dax Shepherd plays the black sheep brother, who really can’t get it together.  His opening scene has him climbing out of a girl’s bed and finding random frozen sperm in her freezer.  A great TV moment where with no dialogue I know a lot about his character.  Dax definitely has some great moments throughout this pilot as the commitment-phobic man child who needs a big brother to constantly run to — I definitely am excited to see where they take his character throughout the series.
The patriarch of this family is played by Craig T. Nelson (apparently there were recent talks of rebooting Coach, an early 90s show that he was on and I honestly was very confused as to why this show was pulled into the revival/reboot tornado that we currently find ourselves in).
I mostly remember Craig T Nelson as the voice of Pixar’s Mr Incredible, but I always thought he looked like a sweet older man, full of wisdom and experience.  In Parenthood however, they decided to make him a genuine asshole.  There is a scene where he plays one on one basketball with one of his grandsons and proceeds to elbow the boy in the face, causing a severe nosebleed.  And while the rest of the family clamors to get some ice, a towel, etc, Craig T Nelson actually defends his action, saying the boy needs to toughen up.
Wow.  This boy, by the way, is around 8 years old and in a moment I’ll reveal how truly messed up Mr. Nelson’s tactics are.
I feel like the writers are offering an older generation’s perspective.  Less touchy-feely, everyone gets a gold star/participation trophy, don’t use red pen, it hurts kids’ feelings to a philosophy of strength and independence, where emotions are weak and hugs are for sissies.
It’s hard to watch at times, but clearly it does have a place on TV, especially for an older viewership who perhaps isn’t as appalled as I am and can actually relate or at least understand where my boy Craig T is coming from. 
The last sibling is a sister played by Erika Christensen, a big shot lawyer whose career clearly dominates her life.  So much so that her young daughter prefers her father and starts having little tantrums every time Erika tries to read her a story or cut her food for her.  I really enjoyed the inclusion of this character because I think it demonstrates a struggle that women have to face even in 2016: Trying to make it big in whatever career field they’ve chosen and then raise a family on top of it.  And I thought the portrayal of this family felt more balanced.  Usually a TV portrayal will either have the mother be completely ignorant of her children as she greedily climbs the corporate ladder or she struggles so hard to balance the two and her family is so blind and unappreciative of her sacrifice.  In this pilot, I felt both ways at different times, so no one person was the villain and thus this mother/daughter relationship felt more real, because it was complicated and not clear who was at fault.
A slightly spoiler-y thing ahead so in case you want to watch the pilot with fresh eyes, you’ve been warned: SPOILER ALERT
A big reveal about three quarters of the way through the episode is that Peter Krause’s son is autistic.  With my 2016 POV, it was pretty easy to notice this, but I think all the way back in 2010, this topic was not breached nearly enough on national television.
Talking to people who watched the show when it originally aired, I learned that the openness with which they addressed autism in the pilot episode was considered groundbreaking and I completely understand why.
Watching both parents try to process this sudden and unexpected diagnosis is so heartbreaking.     Peter Krause is in full denial of this reality and his wife, played by the lovely Monica Potter, is devastated.  She is grieving at the difficult life her son, Max, has ahead of him and also angry at Peter Krause for not facing the truth.
By far the most heartbreaking was the interaction Craig T and Peter Krause have together after the diagnosis.  Unaware of the news, Craig T heartlessly criticizes Peter’s parenting.  Peter turns to him and says “Dad, there’s something wrong with my son.”
Peter proceeds to say more than once and I could feel my lip quivering, holding back tears.  Whew boy!  Heavy stuff for primetime.
Luckily the pilot has an uplifting ending of Max wanting to go to his baseball game and the entire extended family uprooting their lunch plans together to take him.  And Peter Krause, who has been a little intense about Max’s baseball career, simply beams as his son takes the plate, not caring what happens next, just glad that he’s participating.
Overall this pilot succeeded in providing so much information without feeling like a dreaded info dump.  It showed family tension and history through action, rather than clunky dialogue and while they unpacked a lot of characters and story arcs in one episode, it didn’t feel rushed or disjointed to me.  I was engaged and am excited to see what happens next.  Of course my only reservation, which has been confirmed by those who’ve watched the show, is that most prime time dramas quickly slip into melodrama and become a soap opera.  But as a pilot I will give it 8 out of 10 Lauren Graham tears.